{"id":1137,"date":"2026-08-22T07:34:35","date_gmt":"2026-08-22T04:34:35","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/selahattinsemiz.com\/?p=1137"},"modified":"2026-08-22T16:26:02","modified_gmt":"2026-08-22T13:26:02","slug":"bizim-tatilin-adi-sila-i-rahim","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/selahattinsemiz.com\/index.php\/2026\/08\/22\/bizim-tatilin-adi-sila-i-rahim\/","title":{"rendered":"Bizim Tatilin Ad\u0131 S\u0131la-i Rahim"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Tatil denildi\u011finde bizim akl\u0131m\u0131za l\u00fcks oteller, sahiller ya da kalabal\u0131k al\u0131\u015fveri\u015f merkezleri de\u011fil; memleket ziyareti gelir. Do\u011fup b\u00fcy\u00fcd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fcz, gen\u00e7lik y\u0131llar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 ge\u00e7irdi\u011fimiz Sivas\u2019\u0131n G\u00fcr\u00fcn il\u00e7esi adeta burnumuzda t\u00fcter.

Akrabalar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 ziyaret etmek, onlarla sohbet etmek, ge\u00e7mi\u015f hat\u0131ralar\u0131 yad ederek haf\u0131zam\u0131z\u0131 tazelemek bana huzur verir. Ahrete g\u00f6\u00e7m\u00fc\u015f b\u00fcy\u00fcklerimizin mezarlar\u0131n\u0131 ziyaret etmek ise kutsal bir g\u00f6rev gibidir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Aile kabristan\u0131nda babam\u0131n, amcalar\u0131m\u0131n, teyzelerimin ve day\u0131lar\u0131m\u0131n kabirleri ba\u015f\u0131nda adeta onlarla konu\u015fur, halle\u015fir, vedala\u015f\u0131r gibi olurum. Sanki b\u00fcy\u00fck bir salonda hep birlikte maziyi y\u00e2d ediyormu\u015fuz gibi hissederim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Memleketin her soka\u011f\u0131nda, evinde, bah\u00e7esinde ge\u00e7mi\u015fin izlerini g\u00f6r\u00fcr\u00fcm. Tan\u0131d\u0131\u011f\u0131m her simada eski g\u00fcnlerin hat\u0131ralar\u0131n\u0131, ya\u015fanm\u0131\u015fl\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 hissederim. Sanki y\u0131llar \u00f6ncesine gitmi\u015f\u00e7esine eski g\u00fcnleri anlatan siyah beyaz film izler gibi olurum

Yaz geldi\u011finde bah\u00e7elerde dal\u0131ndan dut, kay\u0131s\u0131, elma yemek; yeni k\u0131zarm\u0131\u015f domatesin kokusunu duymak, yapraklar aras\u0131ndan al\u0131nm\u0131\u015f salatal\u0131\u011f\u0131n tazeli\u011fini hissetmek, \u00fcz\u00fcm salk\u0131mlar\u0131n\u0131n lezzetini tatmak bizim i\u00e7in d\u00fcnyan\u0131n en g\u00fczel ziyafetidir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Hele sabah namaz\u0131ndan sonra serin havada s\u0131cak ekmek, peynir, so\u011fan\u0131n yan\u0131nda dal\u0131ndan yeni kopar\u0131lm\u0131\u015f domates-salatal\u0131k ve dut- kay\u0131s\u0131 yemek inan\u0131n en \u00f6zel ve g\u00fczel ziyafettir. Hele yan\u0131n\u0131zda dostlar ve akrabalar varsa tad\u0131na doyulmaz. Tavsiye ederim defalarca denenmi\u015f olup tad\u0131na ve kalitesine tam not verilmi\u015ftir.
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Tatilin As\u0131l Anlam\u0131<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n


Eskiden tatiller yakla\u015f\u0131rken her evde bir tela\u015f ba\u015flard\u0131. Valizler haz\u0131rlan\u0131r, \u00e7ocuklar sevin\u00e7le \u201cbabaanneme gidiyoruz, dedemlere gidiyoruz, memlekete gidiyoruz\u201d derdi. Evlerde hasret, sevgi ve yorgunluk aras\u0131 duygular ya\u015fan\u0131rd\u0131. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc tatil, sadece dinlenme de\u011fil; s\u0131la-i rahim yani aile b\u00fcy\u00fcklerini ziyaret etme ve ba\u011flar\u0131 tazeleme vesilesiydi.

Bug\u00fcn ise manzara de\u011fi\u015fti. Tatil denildi\u011finde akla tatil k\u00f6yleri, yurtd\u0131\u015f\u0131 seyahatleri, sahillerde kumsallar ya da kalabal\u0131k AVM\u2019ler geliyor. Art\u0131k \u015fehirlerden \u201cka\u00e7\u0131\u015f\u201d kelimesi, \u201cziyaret\u201din yerini ald\u0131. Oysa ka\u00e7t\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z yer nereye kadar bizden bir par\u00e7a ve gitti\u011fimiz yer nereye kadar ger\u00e7ek bir dinlenme?

Hayat\u0131n tela\u015f\u0131 i\u00e7inde tatil, genellikle uzaklara ka\u00e7mak, g\u00fcndelik rutinden s\u0131yr\u0131lmak olarak g\u00f6r\u00fcl\u00fcyor. Eskiden aile i\u00e7i \u201cruh tazeleme, g\u00f6n\u00fcl alma, hasret giderme\u201d amac\u0131 ta\u015f\u0131yan tatiller; \u015fimdilerde daha \u00e7ok \u201czihin bo\u015faltma, keyif alma, e\u011flenme\u201d temelli hale geldi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Elbette dinlenmeye, yeni yerler g\u00f6rmeye herkesin hakk\u0131 var. Ama tatil denince akla ilk gelen \u015fey \u201cg\u00f6n\u00fcl alma\u201d de\u011fil de \u2018keyif alma\u2019 olduysa \u00e7ok \u00f6nemli de\u011ferleri kaybediyoruz demektir. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ne yaz\u0131k ki, aile ziyaretleri ve sosyal manevi ba\u011flar modern ya\u015fam\u0131n h\u0131zl\u0131 temposunda gev\u015femi\u015f hatta kaybolmu\u015f durumda. Tatil i\u00e7in harcanan zaman ve maddi kaynaklar, art\u0131k aile ziyaretlerinden ziyade bireysel keyiflere ve e\u011flencelere y\u00f6neliyor. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Art\u0131k tatiller, kalabal\u0131klar i\u00e7inde e\u011flenilen, vakit \u00f6ld\u00fcr\u00fclen ve s\u0131n\u0131rs\u0131z \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fck aray\u0131\u015f\u0131na kap\u0131 aralayan \u00f6zel zamanlar gibi g\u00f6r\u00fcl\u00fcyor. Oysa ger\u00e7ek tatil; aile ba\u011flar\u0131n\u0131 g\u00fc\u00e7lendiren, ge\u00e7mi\u015fi hat\u0131rlatan ve manevi huzuru tazeleyen *S\u0131la-i rahim<\/strong>*dir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

S\u0131la-\u0131 Rahim\u2019in Faydalar\u0131<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

S\u0131la-i rahimin \u0130slam k\u00fclt\u00fcr\u00fcndeki kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131; sadece bir nezaket ziyareti de\u011fil,\u00a0 ayn\u0131 zamanda akrabalar\u0131n dert ve kederlerinin, sevin\u00e7lerinin payla\u015f\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131, yaralara dermanlar\u0131n \u00fcretildi\u011fi, hat\u0131rlar\u0131n sorulup g\u00f6n\u00fcllerin al\u0131nd\u0131\u011f\u0131; aileyi-toplumu ayakta tutan g\u00f6r\u00fcnmez manevi ba\u011flar\u0131n tahkim edildi\u011fi \u00e7ok \u00f6nemli bireysel ve sosyal sorumluluklar demektir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Y\u00fcce Allah Kuran-\u0131 Kerim\u2019de \u2018…Allah’tan korkun ve akrabal\u0131k ba\u011flar\u0131n\u0131 kesmekten sak\u0131n\u0131n…” <\/strong>(Nis\u00e2, 4\/I);ayetinde akrabal\u0131k ba\u011flar\u0131n\u0131 sa\u011flam tutmay\u0131 emretmektedir.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Hadis-i \u015eeriflerde \u201cAkraba ili\u015fkisini kesen, cennete giremez.\u201d \u201cKim Allah\u2019a ve \u00e2hiret g\u00fcn\u00fcne inan\u0131yorsa, misafirine ikramda bulunsun. Kim Allah\u2019a ve \u00e2hiret g\u00fcn\u00fcne inan\u0131yorsa, akraba ile irtibat\u0131n\u0131 s\u00fcrd\u00fcrs\u00fcn…\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

 \u201cY\u00fcce Allah \u015f\u00f6yle buyurur: \u2018Ben Rahm\u00e2n\u2019\u0131m, o (akrabal\u0131k ba\u011flar\u0131n\u0131n ad\u0131) da rahimdir. Ona kendi ismimden t\u00fcreyen bir isim verdim. Onunla ili\u015fkiyi s\u00fcrd\u00fcrenle ben de ili\u015fkimi s\u00fcrd\u00fcr\u00fcr, onunla ili\u015fkiyi kesenle ben de ili\u015fkimi keserim.\u2019\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ba\u015fka bir hadisi \u015ferifte Resulullah Efendimiz<\/strong> S\u0131la-\u0131 Rahmin faydalar\u0131n\u0131 anlat\u0131r \u201cKim r\u0131zk\u0131n\u0131n bolla\u015ft\u0131r\u0131lmas\u0131n\u0131 yahut ecelinin geciktirilmesini arzu ederse, akraba ile irtibat\u0131n\u0131 s\u00fcrd\u00fcrs\u00fcn<\/strong>!\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

“Y\u00e2 Ras\u00fblallah; beni cennete sokacak bir ibadet s\u00f6yler misiniz?” <\/strong><\/em>dedi… Ras\u00fbl\u00fcllah \u015fu cevab\u0131<\/strong> verdi:”Allah’a ibadet eder ve O’na hi\u00e7bir \u015feyi ortak ko\u015fmazs\u0131n, namaz k\u0131lar, zek\u00e2t verir ve s\u0131la-i rahm edersin.” <\/strong>(Buhar\u00ee, Zek\u00e2t, 1).<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tatil mi, S\u0131la m\u0131? Unutulan Bir De\u011ferin Pe\u015finde<\/strong><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Belki de \u00e7are, bu iki kavram\u0131 birbirinin alternatifi gibi g\u00f6rmekten vazge\u00e7mektir. Tatil ve e\u011flenme vakti, ayn\u0131 zamanda memleket ziyareti, s\u0131la-i rahim olabilir. Tatilin bir k\u0131sm\u0131n\u0131 gezerek ve e\u011flenerek bir k\u0131sm\u0131n\u0131 da aile b\u00fcy\u00fcklerini, akrabalar\u0131 ziyaret ederek ge\u00e7irebiliriz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

S\u0131ladaki bir \u015fehre gitmek, aile b\u00fcy\u00fcklerini ziyaret etmek, \u00e7ocuklara ge\u00e7mi\u015fi anlatmak, unutulmu\u015f y\u00fczleri hat\u0131rlatmak neden tatil say\u0131lmas\u0131n? \u00c7ocuklar\u0131n tatilde akraba ziyaretleriyle aile ba\u011flar\u0131n\u0131 tan\u0131mas\u0131 ve k\u00f6klerini \u00f6\u011frenmesi; ki\u015filik geli\u015fimi kadar aile k\u00f6klerine kar\u015f\u0131 duyulacak aidiyet duygusunun da peki\u015fmesine katk\u0131 sa\u011flamas\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131ndan olduk\u00e7a \u00f6nemlidir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00a0Gidilecek \u00e7ok yer, yap\u0131lacak \u00e7ok \u015fey olabilir, ancak bazen en b\u00fcy\u00fck yolculuk; kap\u0131 arkas\u0131nda bekleyen ya\u015fl\u0131 bir elin tutulmas\u0131, s\u0131ladaki bir yak\u0131n\u0131n, bir b\u00fcy\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn ziyaret edilmesi, aile kabristan\u0131nda yatan ulular\u0131n duas\u0131na eri\u015fmektir…<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ger\u00e7ek dinlenme bazen deniz k\u0131y\u0131s\u0131nda de\u011fil, bir b\u00fcy\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn duas\u0131nda, bir annenin dizinin dibindedir. Memlekette gezilen bah\u00e7elerde yenilen kay\u0131s\u0131 ve dut meyvelerinde, s\u00f6\u011f\u00fct a\u011fa\u00e7lar\u0131n\u0131n g\u00f6lgesinde, ceviz a\u011fac\u0131n\u0131n ye\u015fil yapraklar\u0131ndad\u0131r. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doktor tavsiyesidir: S\u0131la-i rahim:<\/strong>
. Her derde devad\u0131r,
. Moral verir, kazanc\u0131 bereketlendirir.
\u00a0 Zihin a\u00e7ar,
. S\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131lar\u0131 giderir,\u00d6mr\u00fc uzat\u0131r
. Psikolojiyi d\u00fczenler,
. Ve berekettir…
Deneyin, iyi gelecek…<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Aile kabristan\u0131nda Babam ve Amcam\u0131n kabirleri ba\u015f\u0131nda<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Dereba\u011f’da Kiraz yerken<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Dereba\u011f’da Y\u00fcksel A\u011fabeyimle <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Beykoz’da Aile Dostumuz \u015eener bey ve ailesi ile <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Tatil denildi\u011finde bizim akl\u0131m\u0131za l\u00fcks oteller, sahiller ya da kalabal\u0131k al\u0131\u015fveri\u015f merkezleri de\u011fil; memleket ziyareti gelir. Do\u011fup b\u00fcy\u00fcd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fcz, gen\u00e7lik y\u0131llar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 ge\u00e7irdi\u011fimiz Sivas\u2019\u0131n G\u00fcr\u00fcn il\u00e7esi adeta [Devam\u0131]<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":1139,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1137","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-genel"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/selahattinsemiz.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1137","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/selahattinsemiz.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/selahattinsemiz.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/selahattinsemiz.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/selahattinsemiz.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1137"}],"version-history":[{"count":7,"href":"https:\/\/selahattinsemiz.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1137\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1153,"href":"https:\/\/selahattinsemiz.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1137\/revisions\/1153"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/selahattinsemiz.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1139"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/selahattinsemiz.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1137"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/selahattinsemiz.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1137"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/selahattinsemiz.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1137"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}