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Uzm.Dr.Selahattin Semiz<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

10 May\u0131s 2015. Son Anneler g\u00fcn\u00fcm. <\/strong>Annemle beraber ge\u00e7irdi\u011fimiz son anneler g\u00fcn\u00fc .. Anneme onun sevdi\u011fi \u00e7i\u00e7eklerden al\u0131yorum. Menek\u015fe, fesle\u011fen ve k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck bir orkide \u00e7i\u00e7e\u011fi.  Annem hasta yata\u011f\u0131nda hepsini ayr\u0131 ayr\u0131 seviyor. Ama fesle\u011fenin yapraklar\u0131nda ellerini gezindirip kokusunu i\u00e7ine \u00e7ekerken adeta G\u00fcr\u00fcn\u2019de evimizin \u00f6n\u00fcnde sabah r\u00fczgar\u0131 ile gelen g\u00fcl ve reyhan kokular\u0131n\u0131 hisseder gibi oluyor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

G\u00f6zleri yata\u011f\u0131n kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131ndaki pencereden g\u00f6ky\u00fcz\u00fcn\u00fc seyrederken y\u00fcz\u00fcnde mutlu bir tebess\u00fcm var. Ellerinden, y\u00fcz\u00fcnden ve ilk defa ayaklar\u0131ndan \u00f6p\u00fcyorum. Her zamanki \u015fakala\u015fmam\u0131z ile hafif\u00e7e g\u00fcl\u00fcyor \u2018Nediyin ula, bu nereden \u00e7\u0131kht\u0131 \u015fimdi\u2019 diyor. \u201cAnneler g\u00fcn\u00fc anneci\u011fim, o y\u00fczden!\u201d <\/strong>diyorum. Sar\u0131l\u0131yoruz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anneme bir sene \u00f6nce kanser te\u015fhisi kondu. V\u00fccuduna yay\u0131lm\u0131\u015f oldu\u011fu i\u00e7in ancak semptomatik\/palyatif tedavi yap\u0131yoruz. Birka\u00e7 ayd\u0131r da art\u0131k yata\u011fa ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131 durumda. Yeme\u011fini yata\u011f\u0131nda yiyorken son g\u00fcnlerde art\u0131k sa\u011f elini de kullanamaz oluyor. Hastal\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n ba\u015f\u0131ndan beri ilk defa o zaman g\u00f6zlerinin ya\u015fard\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131, a\u011flad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fcyorum. \u2018He\u00e7 olmazsa elimle kendi yeme\u011fimi yiyordum, \u015fimdi eyice muhta\u00e7 oldum\u2019 <\/strong>diye a\u011flad\u0131. Ve her zamanki duas\u0131 \u2018 Ya Rabbi \u0130man-Kuran selameti ver  Can\u0131m\u0131 m\u00fcsl\u00fcman olarak al\u2019<\/strong> diye dua etti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Annem k\u0131rk g\u00fcnl\u00fck bebek iken annesi Hatice han\u0131m vefat etmi\u015f, o y\u00fczden annemin ad\u0131n\u0131 da Hatice koymu\u015flar.  Anneannemin \u2018Ya Rabbi bana bir evlat ver de istersen can\u0131m\u0131 al<\/strong> \u2018 diye dua etti\u011fi ve bu duas\u0131n\u0131n kabul oldu\u011funu s\u00f6ylerdi.  Annem k\u0131rk g\u00fcnl\u00fckken yetim kal\u0131nca \u00f6nce babas\u0131 Hasan Hoca\u2019n\u0131n yan\u0131nda kalm\u0131\u015f, s\u00fctanne olarak kom\u015fu ve akrabalardan bir\u00e7ok ki\u015fi emzirmi\u015f. Bu y\u00fczden G\u00fcr\u00fcn ve G\u00fcb\u00fcn\u2019de annemin s\u00fctkarde\u015fleri ve bizimde s\u00fct day\u0131lar\u0131m\u0131z \u00e7oktu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Daha sonra bak\u0131m\u0131n\u0131 anneannesi Nezihe Han\u0131m \u00fcstlenmi\u015f. Nezihe ebe, Toraman Camisine yak\u0131n yerdeki evinde dul olarak ya\u015fayan, iki o\u011flu ve gelinleri ile birlikte ayn\u0131 evde oturan g\u00fcng\u00f6rm\u00fc\u015f bir han\u0131md\u0131r. Annemin day\u0131lar\u0131 Muharrem ve H\u00fcseyin k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck ya\u015fta yetim kalm\u0131\u015f, hayat\u0131n zorluklar\u0131 i\u00e7erisinde b\u00fcy\u00fcm\u00fc\u015f gen\u00e7lerdir. Karde\u015flerinin emaneti ve onun ismini ta\u015f\u0131yan yetim ye\u011fenlerini, evlatlar\u0131ndan ay\u0131rmaz ve ba\u011f\u0131rlar\u0131na basarlar. Annem gece ge\u00e7 saatlerde bile a\u011flad\u0131\u011f\u0131 zaman Muharrem day\u0131n\u0131n (Nam-\u0131 di\u011fer K\u00f6\u015fker Muharrem) uyan\u0131p, yan\u0131na geldi\u011fini ve kuca\u011f\u0131nda sallayarak kendisini uyuttu\u011funu anlat\u0131rd\u0131.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Takdiri ilahi y\u0131llar sonra Hasan Hocan\u0131n k\u0131z\u0131 annem ile; babaannemin yetimi babam Ahmet evlenirler. Yani \u00f6nce Annemin babas\u0131 Hasan Hoca ile Babam\u0131n annesi 3 \u00e7ocukla dul kalm\u0131\u015f olan Fat\u0131ma han\u0131m evlenmi\u015fler, sonra Hasan Hoca dedemin daha \u00f6nceki han\u0131mlar\u0131ndan olan k\u0131zlar\u0131 Hatice han\u0131mlar ile babannemin yetimleri Mehmet ile Ahmet evlenmi\u015fler. Mehmet ile Ahmet karde\u015fler, kendileri gibi yetim olan iki karde\u015f Hatice\u2019ler ile evlenince adeta bir baba oca\u011f\u0131 gibi geni\u015f aile kurmu\u015flar ve ayn\u0131 evde oturmu\u015flar y\u0131llarca. Bu k\u0131s\u0131m bizim ailenin bir kader s\u0131rr\u0131 olup, bilmeyene anlatmak i\u00e7in ayr\u0131 ve tafsilatl\u0131 bir soy k\u00fct\u00fc\u011f\u00fc izlemesi yapmak gerekir, yoksa kolay anla\u015f\u0131lacak bir bilmece de\u011fildir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Babam Ah\u00e7\u0131 Ahmet ile Amcam Mehmet Hoca birbirine \u00e7ok ba\u011fl\u0131 ve sayg\u0131l\u0131 idiler. Hem karde\u015f, hem bacanak hem de i\u015fleri de ortak olunca birbirine daha s\u0131k\u0131 ba\u011flanm\u0131\u015flar. Sanki y\u0131llar\u0131n ac\u0131lar\u0131 ve ayr\u0131l\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131n yaralar\u0131n\u0131 sarmak ister gibi hep birlikte ya\u015famaya ba\u015flam\u0131\u015flar. Benim \u00e7ocuklu\u011fumda \u00c7ar\u015f\u0131ba\u015f\u0131\u2019nda ki evimiz 2 katl\u0131, amcamlar\u0131n eviyle biti\u015fikti. Ama bah\u00e7e hepimizin ortak oyun alan\u0131 idi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Biz d\u00f6rt karde\u015f ve amcam\u0131n sekiz \u00e7ocu\u011fu ile beraber ayn\u0131 bah\u00e7ede, geni\u015f bir ailenin sevgi atmosferi i\u00e7erisinde sevgi, muhabbet ve payla\u015fma duygular\u0131 ile b\u00fcy\u00fcd\u00fck. Amcam ve babam birbirini \u00e7ok seven ve sayan iki karde\u015f, k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck ya\u015fta yetim kalm\u0131\u015f, hayat\u0131n her t\u00fcrl\u00fc zorlu\u011funu \u00e7ekmi\u015fler, sonra da birbirine destek olarak ortak bir lokanta i\u015fletiyorlard\u0131.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Annem ve B\u00fcy\u00fckannem hem ev i\u015fleri hem de bah\u00e7e i\u015flerini yaparlard\u0131. Ayn\u0131 zamanda on iki \u00e7ocu\u011fun yemek-bula\u015f\u0131k-\u00e7ama\u015f\u0131r vs i\u015fleri de cabas\u0131. Ek olarak lokantan\u0131n baz\u0131 yemek haz\u0131rl\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 da yaparlard\u0131. Tavuk ve hindilerin kesilip, temizlenmesi, maydanoz, \u0131spanak..vs toplan\u0131p y\u0131kanmas\u0131, vs gibi i\u015flerde yap\u0131l\u0131rd\u0131. Hem de suyu hafif tuzlu oldu\u011fu i\u00e7in \u2018\u00c7orak \u00e7e\u015fme<\/strong>\u2019 denilen mahalle \u00e7e\u015fmesinden kovalarla \u00e7ekilen su ile. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc evlerde \u015febeke sular\u0131 olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 i\u00e7in deredeki \u00e7orak \u00e7e\u015fme t\u00fcm mahallenin i\u00e7me ve kullanma suyunu sa\u011fl\u0131yordu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bu su yoklu\u011funda en zor i\u015f \u00e7ama\u015f\u0131r y\u0131kamakt\u0131. Annemler baz\u0131 g\u00fcnler g\u00fcn boyu geni\u015f le\u011fenlerde \u00e7ama\u015f\u0131r y\u0131karlar, yorgunluktan adeta peri\u015fan olurlard\u0131. Bizim \u00fczerimize d\u00fc\u015fen g\u00f6revde mahallenin ortak kulland\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u2018\u00c7orak \u00e7e\u015fme\u2019<\/strong>den kovalarla su ta\u015f\u0131makt\u0131. Banyo yapmakta epeyce zahmetli ve zor bir i\u015fti. Sobalar\u0131n \u00fczerinde su \u0131s\u0131t\u0131l\u0131r, k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck \u00e7ocuklar le\u011fende sabunlan\u0131p y\u0131kan\u0131r, bu s\u0131rada g\u00f6z\u00fcme sabun ka\u00e7t\u0131, su \u00e7ok s\u0131cak\u2026vs g,b, \u015fikayetler fazla dikkate al\u0131nmazd\u0131.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Annem  \u00c7i\u00e7ekleri \u00e7ok severdi<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Annem \u00e7i\u00e7ekleri \u00e7ok severdi. G\u00fcr\u00fcn\u2019de \u00c7ar\u015f\u0131ba\u015f\u0131 mahallesindeki bah\u00e7eli evimizin \u00f6n\u00fcnde seki dedi\u011fimiz k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck dikd\u00f6rtgen \u015feklinde, hafif t\u00fcmseklerle \u00e7evrili topraklarda reyhan, nane, maydanoz yeti\u015ftirirken, sekilerin kenar\u0131nda da bo\u015f ya\u011f tenekelerinin i\u00e7erisinde g\u00fcl, karanfil, menek\u015fe..vs ekerdi. Sabah kap\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n \u00f6n\u00fcne \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131\u011f\u0131mda sabah g\u00fcne\u015finin \u0131\u015f\u0131klar\u0131 ile beraber reyhan ve g\u00fcl kokular\u0131 ile kar\u0131\u015f\u0131k ho\u015f bir rayiha hissederdim. Tabii annemin sabah titizlikle y\u0131kad\u0131\u011f\u0131 merdivenlerdeki temizlik kokusu da beraber..<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00c7ocukluk hat\u0131ralar\u0131mda annemi hep suyla kap\u0131 \u00f6n\u00fcn\u00fc y\u0131karken veya evde elinde bez veya s\u00fcp\u00fcrge temizlik yaparken hat\u0131rlar\u0131m. Temizlik konusunda \u00e7ok titizdi. Ayn\u0131 zamanda tertip d\u00fczen ve disiplin konusunda da hassast\u0131.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ablam G\u00fclseven\u2019in ad\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7i\u00e7ekleri \u00e7ok sevdikleri i\u00e7in mi koydular yoksa b\u00fcy\u00fcklerin tavsiyesi mi bilmiyorum. Ablamda ismine yak\u0131\u015f\u0131r \u015fekilde bir \u00e7i\u00e7ek ve g\u00fcl a\u015f\u0131\u011f\u0131. \u00c7i\u00e7ekler onun elinde adeta co\u015fuyor, g\u00fczelle\u015fiyor. \u015eimdi bile apartman dairesinde evin her k\u00f6\u015fesinde bir \u00e7i\u00e7ek var. Onlarla adeta konu\u015fuyor, dertle\u015fiyor, seviyor onlar\u0131. \u00c7i\u00e7eklerde bu sevgiyi anl\u0131yormu\u015f gibi davran\u0131yorlar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Hasan a\u011fabeyimin ismi, muhtemelen Hasan Hoca dedemizin ismi. Hasan Hoca dedemiz 1952 y\u0131l\u0131nda \u0130stanbul Beykoz\u2019da vefat edince onun vefat\u0131ndan sonra do\u011fan a\u011fabeyime onun ismini veriyorlar. Selim a\u011fabeyimin ve benim ismimi Konya\u2019daki day\u0131m\u0131z Ramazan Day\u0131 koyuyor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bizim ailede d\u00f6rt \u00e7ocu\u011fun en k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fc\u011f\u00fc ben oldu\u011fum i\u00e7in annemin hiddetinden ve sonras\u0131nda gelen terlik terbiyesinden en az hasar\u0131 alsam da, b\u00fcy\u00fck karde\u015flerim ve amcam\u0131n \u00e7ocuklar\u0131 yaramazl\u0131k konusunda annemden tekdir ve k\u00f6tek yiyerek gerekli terbiye ve uyar\u0131y\u0131 ald\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 anlat\u0131rlard\u0131.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Annemin hiddet f\u0131rt\u0131nas\u0131 s\u0131ras\u0131nda en b\u00fcy\u00fck s\u0131\u011f\u0131na\u011f\u0131m\u0131z b\u00fcy\u00fckannemiz, amcam\u0131n han\u0131m\u0131 ayn\u0131 zamanda annemin ablas\u0131 olan, Hatice teyzemdi. O da annem gibi Hasan Hoca dedemin vefat eden han\u0131mlar\u0131ndan birinin k\u0131z\u0131yd\u0131. Annemin aksine b\u00fcy\u00fckannem \u00e7ok sakin, hi\u00e7 sinirlenmez, hepimizin g\u00f6nl\u00fcnce gitmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rd\u0131.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Annemin sinirlendi\u011fi zamanlarda \u201cHat\u0131\u015f u\u015faklar\u0131 d\u00f6vme, onlar\u0131n daha ahl\u0131 ba\u015f\u0131nda de\u011fil\u201d<\/strong> der annemi sakinle\u015ftirmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rd\u0131. Babam da anneme, bizim yaramazl\u0131klar\u0131m\u0131za sinirlendi\u011finde \u201cOnlar\u0131n yaramazl\u0131\u011f\u0131, haylazl\u0131\u011f\u0131 biz var\u0131z diye han\u0131m, bizim babam\u0131z anam\u0131z olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131ndan yaramazl\u0131k yapamad\u0131k, dokunma onlara\u201d <\/strong>dermi\u015f          <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Babam, k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck ya\u015fta yetim kalm\u0131\u015f, kalayc\u0131lar\u0131n yan\u0131nda \u00e7\u0131rakl\u0131k yapm\u0131\u015f, k\u00f6ylerde seyyar kalayc\u0131l\u0131k yaparken ustas\u0131n\u0131n daya\u011f\u0131ndan ka\u00e7arak kaybolmu\u015f, birka\u00e7 y\u0131l Osmaniye ve Adana\u2019da \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131ktan y\u0131llar sonra k\u00f6ye, ailesinin yan\u0131na d\u00f6nebilmi\u015f, hayat\u0131n \u00e7ilesini \u00e7ekmi\u015f bir insand\u0131. Dostlar\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7ok sever, insanlara tatl\u0131 sert bir tarzda samimi ve esprili davran\u0131r, g\u00f6n\u00fcl almay\u0131 bilir irfan sahibi bir Anadolu esnaf\u0131yd\u0131. Y\u00fcz\u00fcnde hafif bir tebess\u00fcmle beraber derin bir h\u00fczn\u00fcn, \u00e7ileli bir hayat\u0131n izleri g\u00f6r\u00fcl\u00fcrd\u00fc. Genelde sakin ve esprili idi, ama haks\u0131zl\u0131k ve kabal\u0131\u011fa tahamm\u00fcl etmez, \u00f6fkelendi\u011fi zamanda \u00f6n\u00fcnde durulmazd\u0131.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Babam sabah erken d\u00fckkan\u0131 a\u00e7ar \u00f6nce \u00e7orbalar\u0131 sonrada \u00f6\u011flen yemeklerini yapard\u0131. Tabii bu arada yemekleri tabaklara koyup servise haz\u0131r etmek de onun i\u015fiydi. \u00d6zellikle \u00f6\u011fle saatleri lokantada m\u00fc\u015fteriler kalabal\u0131kla\u015f\u0131nca \u00e7ok yo\u011fun \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r, aln\u0131nda ter tomurcuklar\u0131 birikirdi. Lokantam\u0131z\u0131n ad\u0131 \u2018Bilenler Lokantas\u0131\u2019<\/strong> ismi gibi genellikle bilenlerin, esnaflar\u0131n, memurlar\u0131n geldi\u011fi esnaf lokantas\u0131 idi. Yemekleri ucuz ve lezzetli, porsiyonlar doyurucu idi. Babam,  m\u00fc\u015fterilerden tan\u0131d\u0131klar\u0131na \u2018Haz\u0131r olan yemekler bunlar, be\u011fenmezsen sopa yersin \u2018 veya \u2018Evde han\u0131m karn\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 doyurmad\u0131, ben mi doyuraca\u011f\u0131m sizi<\/strong> \u2018 diye \u015fakayla yemek verirdi. Amcam hem yanan camide m\u00fcezzin olarak g\u00f6rev yapar, hemde namaz vakitleri ve toplant\u0131lar\u0131 d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda lokantada bulunur, genelde hesaplar\u0131 tutar ve d\u0131\u015f al\u0131mlar\u0131-et ve sebze al\u0131mlar\u0131n\u0131- yapard\u0131. Babam 1979 y\u0131l\u0131nda 30 kas\u0131mda \u015fiddetli bir k\u0131\u015f g\u00fcn\u00fc vefat etti. Amcam be\u015f sene sonra 1984 y\u0131l\u0131nda veaft etti. Her ikisini de gen\u00e7 denilecek bir ya\u015fta kaybettik. Onlardan sonra geni\u015f ailemiz imamesi kopmu\u015f tesbih taneleri gibi da\u011f\u0131ld\u0131.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Annem, E\u015fim ve Evlatlar\u0131m\u0131z<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

1985 y\u0131l\u0131 Kas\u0131m ay\u0131nda evlendi\u011fim zaman, K\u0131r\u015fehir \u2013 Kaman-Yenice nahiyesinde doktor olarak 2 ayd\u0131r g\u00f6reve yap\u0131yordum.Annemde e\u015fime k\u00f6y yerinde can yolda\u015f\u0131 olmak i\u00e7in bizimle kalmaya ba\u015flad\u0131. E\u015fime \u201cSeni gelinim de\u011fil, k\u0131z\u0131m kabul ediyorum<\/strong>\u201d  derdi. E\u015fimde anneme sayg\u0131 ve sevgide kusur etmez ve \u00e7ok iyi anla\u015f\u0131rlard\u0131. Yenice\u2019de sa\u011fl\u0131k oca\u011f\u0131n\u0131n bah\u00e7esinde lojmanlarda kal\u0131yorduk. Kom\u015fular\u0131m\u0131z olan sa\u011fl\u0131k personelleri ve k\u00f6y halk\u0131 bizim ailemizin huzur ve mutlulu\u011funa hayran kal\u0131rlard\u0131. E\u015fim k\u00f6y\u00fcn gen\u00e7 k\u0131zlar\u0131na Kuran\u0131 Kerim ve \u0130slam ahlak\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6\u011fretirken, annemde k\u00f6y\u00fcn han\u0131mlar\u0131na \u00f6rf, adet ve hayat bilgisi dersi verirdi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sa\u011fl\u0131k Oca\u011f\u0131ndan bana muayene olduktan sonra anneme u\u011fray\u0131p, benim re\u00e7etem yerine annemin nane-limon-ihlamur-anason \u00e7ay\u0131..vb bitkisel tedavilerini tercih eden \u00e7ok olurdu. Annem, ayn\u0131 zamanda k\u00f6y\u00fcn han\u0131mlar\u0131n\u0131n ak\u0131l hocas\u0131 olmu\u015ftu. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Hatta sa\u011fl\u0131k personelimizden bir han\u0131m, ge\u00e7imsizlik nedeni ile e\u015finden ayr\u0131lmak istiyordu. Bizim nasihatlerimiz ve uyar\u0131lar\u0131m\u0131z pek i\u015fe yaram\u0131yordu. Bir m\u00fcddet sonra ayr\u0131lmaktan vazge\u00e7ti\u011fini bunun nedenini de annemin bir nasihati oldu\u011funu s\u00f6yledi. Annemin, bo\u015fanmas\u0131n\u0131n yanl\u0131\u015fl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 anlat\u0131rken s\u00f6yledi\u011fi bir s\u00f6z yuvas\u0131n\u0131n bozulmas\u0131n\u0131 engellemi\u015fti.  Annem ona \u201cK\u0131z\u0131m, ayr\u0131l\u0131nca ne de\u011fi\u015fecek, yast\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 de\u011fi\u015firsin amma kaderin, k\u0131smetin de\u011fi\u015fmez, sanki ayr\u0131l\u0131p daha eyisini mi bulacahs\u0131n, sabret d\u00fczelir in\u015fallah.\u201d<\/strong> Demi\u015f.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yenice\u2019de Sa\u011fl\u0131k Oca\u011f\u0131n\u0131n bah\u00e7esi \u00e7ok geni\u015fti. Eski harman yerini 12 Eyl\u00fcl d\u00f6neminde ta\u015f duvarla \u00e7evirip yakla\u015f\u0131k on d\u00f6n\u00fcml\u00fck arazinin i\u00e7erisine sa\u011fl\u0131k oca\u011f\u0131 ve lojmanlar yap\u0131lm\u0131\u015ft\u0131. Annem, e\u015fimin kaz yavrular\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7ok sevdi\u011fini g\u00f6r\u00fcnce k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck bir k\u00fcmes yapt\u0131r\u0131p bana iki de kaz ald\u0131rd\u0131. Derken kulu\u00e7ka s\u00fcresi sonras\u0131 21 adet kaz yavrusu sa\u011fl\u0131k oca\u011f\u0131 bah\u00e7esinde gezinmeye ba\u015flad\u0131. Paytak paytak y\u00fcr\u00fcy\u00fc\u015fleri ile \u00e7ok sevimli yavrular, \u00e7imenleri kopar\u0131rken geriye do\u011fru d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcp k\u0131\u00e7 \u00fcst\u00fc oturuyorlar, bizleri zaman zaman kahkahalara bo\u011fuyorlard\u0131. Bu kazlar b\u00fcy\u00fcd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnde annem her gitti\u011fimiz yere \u201cK\u00f6y hediyesi b\u00f6yle olur<\/strong>\u201d diyerek birka\u00e7 kaz g\u00f6t\u00fcrmemizi isterdi. G\u00fcr\u00fcn\u2019e ve \u0130stanbul\u2019a bayramda ziyarete giderken hep kaz yavrusu hediye g\u00f6t\u00fcrd\u00fck.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Annem, k\u00f6y\u00fcn han\u0131mlar\u0131 ile de k\u0131sa zamanda samimi olmu\u015ftu. Onlar\u0131n dertleri ile ilgilenir hal ve hat\u0131rlar\u0131n\u0131 sorard\u0131. Sa\u011fl\u0131k oca\u011f\u0131na yak\u0131n evlerden birinde oturan G\u00fcley teyze herg\u00fcn anneme u\u011frar, k\u00f6yde ne olupbittiyse anlat\u0131rd\u0131. Di\u011fer kom\u015fular \u2018TRT G\u00fcley Kar\u0131 size her havadisi an\u0131nda getiriyor\u2019<\/strong> diye g\u00fclerlerdi. Y\u0131llarca kocas\u0131 gurbette \u00e7al\u0131\u015fan, bir o\u011flu sa\u011f\u0131r ve dilsiz okuluna giden, d\u00f6rt \u00e7ocu\u011funa hem annelik hem babal\u0131k yapan G\u00fcley Teyze, her i\u015ften anlayan bir Anadolu kad\u0131n\u0131yd\u0131. Zay\u0131f yap\u0131s\u0131na ra\u011fmen \u00e7al\u0131\u015fkan, gayretli ve g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc bir b\u00fcnyeye sahipti. \u2018Guruyum emme diriyim\u2019<\/strong> derdi. Di\u011fer kom\u015fulardan \u0130kliman Teyze ve birka\u00e7 g\u00fcng\u00f6rm\u00fc\u015f han\u0131m, annemin yak\u0131n sohbet arkada\u015f\u0131 olmu\u015flard\u0131.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yenice Nahiyesinde 1985-87 y\u0131llar\u0131 aras\u0131nda iki y\u0131l s\u00fcren mecburi hizmet d\u00f6nemimizde tatl\u0131 ve g\u00fczel hat\u0131ralar\u0131m\u0131z oldu\u011fu gibi \u00fcz\u00fcc\u00fc olaylarda ya\u015fad\u0131k. Mesle\u011fimin \u00f6nemli tecr\u00fcbelerini edinirken, zaman zaman baz\u0131 hastalar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 kaybetmenin \u00fcz\u00fcnt\u00fcs\u00fcn\u00fc ve ac\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 de hissettik.  Unutamad\u0131\u011f\u0131m hastalar\u0131mdan, Bakkal Kadir\u2019in menenjitten \u00f6len o\u011flu, Milangaz T\u00fcp\u00e7\u00fc Sabri\u2019nin L\u00f6semi\u2019den \u00f6len k\u0131z\u0131 ve Ortaokul M\u00fcd\u00fcr\u00fc \u0130hsan\u2019\u0131n babas\u0131n\u0131n Mesane kanserinden vefat etmeleriydi. M\u00fcd\u00fcr\u00fcn babas\u0131 g\u00fcng\u00f6rm\u00fc\u015f, ho\u015f sohbet, Osmanl\u0131 hayran\u0131 bir Anadolu ihtiyar\u0131yd\u0131. Son nefesini verirken yan\u0131nda idim, ama t\u0131bb\u0131n ecel kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda bir \u015fey yapamayaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 bir kez daha anlad\u0131m.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bir de bizim k\u00f6ydeki insanlarla samimi muhabbetimizi, kayna\u015fmam\u0131z\u0131 \u00e7ekemeyenlerin, irtica ve devletin nizam\u0131n\u0131 dini temellere dayamak i\u00e7in \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak su\u00e7lamas\u0131yla bizi \u015fik\u00e2yet etmeleri var. E\u015fimin rahats\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131 nedeniyle biz \u0130stanbul\u2019da idik. Annem evde yaln\u0131zken jandarma arama yapmak ve su\u00e7 delillerini(!) tespit etmek i\u00e7in eve bask\u0131n yapm\u0131\u015f. Annem de evdeki Kuran\u0131 Kerim ve vaaz kasetlerini yakmak istemi\u015f. Ama soba tam alev almay\u0131nca her taraf duman olmu\u015f.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Askerler anneme \u201cNiye Kuran kasetlerini yak\u0131yorsun g\u00fcnah de\u011fil mi?\u201d diye sorunca O\u2019da \u2018Siz niye Kuran ve kasetleri su\u00e7mu\u015f gibi topluyorsunuz? Oda g\u00fcnah de\u011fil mi?\u201d \u2018 diye cevap vermi\u015f. Bulduklar\u0131 su\u00e7 delilleri (!) \u00e7ok say\u0131da \u0130slami Kitap, sohbet ve vaaz kasetleri, ba\u015f\u00f6rt\u00fcs\u00fc ve seccade idi. Asl\u0131nda b\u00fcy\u00fck bir kumpas\u0131n par\u00e7as\u0131 olan bu \u015fik\u00e2yet ve bask\u0131ndan Allah\u2019\u0131n yard\u0131m\u0131 ile birka\u00e7 ayl\u0131k bir soru\u015fturma sonucunda berat ettik.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Daha sonra mecburi hizmet bitti\u011finde Ankara\u2019da askerli\u011fimi G\u00fclhane Askeri hastanesinde yapt\u0131m. Bu s\u0131rada ikizlerimiz Hasan Fatih ve H\u00fcseyin Salih do\u011fdular. E\u015fimin hamileli\u011finin son d\u00f6nemi ve do\u011fum s\u00fcreci hep G\u00fclhane hastanesinde ge\u00e7ti. Zor bir do\u011fum sonras\u0131 e\u015fim birka\u00e7 g\u00fcn bilinci kapal\u0131 halde hastanede kald\u0131. Bu s\u00fcre\u00e7te ve sonras\u0131nda evde \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n bak\u0131m\u0131 ve yeti\u015ftirilmesinde annem \u00e7ok destek oldu. Onun tecr\u00fcbesi ve geleneksel bilgisi ile e\u015fimin m\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7i anlay\u0131\u015f\u0131 birbirini tamamlayarak ho\u015f ve muhabbetli bir hava olu\u015fturdu yuvam\u0131zda daima.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Annem\u2019in hayali Bah\u00e7emiz<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Annemle sohbet ederken konu ister istemez G\u00fcr\u00fcn\u2019deki baba oca\u011f\u0131 evlere ve bah\u00e7eye gelirdi. Annem o ev ve bah\u00e7eyi daima hasretle yad ederdi. Her ta\u015f\u0131nda her kar\u0131\u015f\u0131nda eme\u011fi oldu\u011fu i\u00e7in o evi unutam\u0131yordu. Evin yap\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131 zaman ben 4-5 ya\u015flar\u0131ndayd\u0131m Annemin toprak eledi\u011fini, Selim a\u011fabeyimle beraber kerpi\u00e7 d\u00f6kt\u00fcklerini ve ustalara yard\u0131m ettiklerini hat\u0131rl\u0131yorum. Birde lokantadan \u00f6\u011fle vakti, ev yap\u0131m\u0131nda \u00e7al\u0131\u015fan ustalara, amcam\u0131n k\u0131z\u0131  benden 4 ya\u015f b\u00fcy\u00fck H\u00fclya ablam ile sefer tas\u0131 i\u00e7erisinde yemek getirirdik. H\u00fclya ablamla \u00e7ar\u015f\u0131n\u0131n i\u00e7inden ge\u00e7ip eve giden sokak aralar\u0131na do\u011fru geldi\u011fimizde sefer tas\u0131n\u0131 a\u00e7ar i\u00e7erisindeki yemeklerin tad\u0131na bakard\u0131k. Bazen ho\u015fumuza giden yemeklerden biraz fazla ka\u00e7\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z da olurdu. \u00c7ocuklu\u011fumun ge\u00e7ti\u011fi o ev ve bah\u00e7e, hat\u0131ralar\u0131mda hep o zamanki g\u00fczel haliyle yer al\u0131yor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0130stanbul\u2019da apartmanlardaki dairelerde otururken, G\u00fcr\u00fcn\u2019deki evi ve bah\u00e7eyi konu\u015fmak  annemin en g\u00fczel hayalleriydi. Sanki tekrar o g\u00fcnleri ya\u015f\u0131yormu\u015f gibi mutlu olur, y\u00fcz\u00fcne tatl\u0131 bir g\u00fcl\u00fcmseme yay\u0131l\u0131rd\u0131. Bah\u00e7emize bir havuz yapt\u0131raca\u011f\u0131m\u0131, duvarlar\u0131 d\u00fczenleyip kenarlar\u0131na i\u011fde, han\u0131meli, erguvan, g\u00fcl,..vs gibi g\u00fczel kokan \u00e7i\u00e7ekler dikece\u011fimi, evleri tekrar tamir edilip g\u00fczelle\u015fece\u011fini, bah\u00e7eye kuzular, tavuklar..vs alaca\u011f\u0131m\u0131 anlat\u0131r, onun hayallerini daha g\u00fczelle\u015ftirmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rd\u0131m.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bah\u00e7emizin \u00f6n\u00fcnde k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck dere yata\u011f\u0131n\u0131n geni\u015fledi\u011fi, engebeli, biraz geni\u015f\u00e7e alan vard\u0131. Alt k\u0131s\u0131mda babamla amcam\u0131n yapt\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u00e7orak \u00e7e\u015fmenin muslu\u011fu ve \u00f6n\u00fcnde su yola\u011f\u0131 vard\u0131. Bu k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck, engebeli alan bizim mahallenin di\u011fer \u00e7ocuklar\u0131 ile birlikte ma\u00e7 yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z ve \u00e7e\u015fitli oyunlar oynad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z aland\u0131. Bazen top oynarken topumuz bizim bah\u00e7eye ka\u00e7t\u0131\u011f\u0131nda B\u00fcy\u00fckannem oradaysa topu al\u0131r bize vermeden \u00f6nce duvar\u0131n \u00fczerinden bir nasihat konu\u015fmas\u0131 yapard\u0131. Her zamanki konu top oynaman\u0131n yanl\u0131\u015fl\u0131\u011f\u0131 ve zarar\u0131 idi. \u2018Bakh\u0131n \u00e7ocuklar, bu topu d\u00fc\u015fmanlar Hz. H\u00fcseyin efendimizin ba\u015f\u0131n\u0131 kesip oynam\u0131\u015flar, gavurlar T\u00fcrklere sald\u0131raca\u011f\u0131 zaman \u00f6nce gelip bizim \u00e7ocuklar\u0131 ki\u015fatlarm\u0131\u015f (Ke\u015fif ve casusluk faaliyetinin y\u00f6resel ad\u0131) E\u011fer bizim \u00e7ocuklar ta\u015f kale-metlik-deynek-kaleyi d\u00fcz..vs oyunlar\u0131 oynuyorsa \u201cBunlar kendi<\/strong> \u00f6z\u00fcne ba\u011fl\u0131lar, sak\u0131n sald\u0131rmay\u0131n derlermi\u015f. Yok e\u011fer top oynuyorlarsa, bunlarda bize benzemi\u015f bunlar\u0131 yeneriz sald\u0131r\u0131n<\/strong>\u201d derlermi\u015f.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

O y\u00fczden \u201cTop oynaman, al\u0131n topunuzu\u201d<\/strong>  der \u00f6yle topumuzu iade ederdi. Bu nasihat zihnimizde yer etse de bizim top oynamam\u0131za engel te\u015fkil etmezdi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anneler ve Evlatlar<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Annemin vefat\u0131n\u0131n \u00fczerinden y\u0131llar ge\u00e7ti. Ama hat\u0131ralar\u0131 hala bug\u00fcn gibi taze. Hamdolsun 30 sene annem, e\u015fim birlikte kald\u0131k, ya\u015fad\u0131k. Annemin duas\u0131n\u0131n, Anadolu insan\u0131n\u0131n safl\u0131\u011f\u0131 ve irfan\u0131n\u0131n nice g\u00fczelliklerini bereketini g\u00f6rd\u00fck. E\u015fimin de sab\u0131r ve anlay\u0131\u015f\u0131 ile \u00e7ok tatl\u0131 y\u0131llar ya\u015fad\u0131k. Evlatlar\u0131m\u0131z da onun duas\u0131n\u0131 ve sevgisini tatt\u0131lar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

O hayatta ve yan\u0131mdayken yapmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131m ama \u015fimdi ke\u015fke daha \u00e7ok yapsayd\u0131m dedi\u011fim nice g\u00fczel \u015feyler var. Annesi hayatta olan karde\u015flerime tavsiyem, ellerindeki bu b\u00fcy\u00fck nimeti iyi de\u011ferlendirsinler. Onlar\u0131 bir cennet bah\u00e7esinin kap\u0131s\u0131, dua p\u0131nar\u0131, belalar\u0131 def eden, hay\u0131rlar\u0131 celp eden bir koruyucu kalkan olarak bilsinler. Sevgi ve muhabbetlerini s\u0131k s\u0131k ve m\u00fcbala\u011fal\u0131 olarak g\u00f6stersinler. Dualar\u0131n\u0131 almaya, muhabbetle g\u00fcl\u00fcmsetmeye, g\u00f6n\u00fcllerini \u015fenlendirmeye gayret etsinler.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Annem\u2019in son bah\u00e7esi: Karacaahmet;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Annem 28 Temmuz 2015 de vefat etti. Daha \u00f6nce G\u00fcr\u00fcn\u2019de aile mezarl\u0131\u011f\u0131na, babam\u0131n yan\u0131na defnedilmeyi arzu etti\u011fi halde, bizlerin oraya s\u0131k gelemeyece\u011fimizi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnden kabrinin \u0130stanbul\u2019da olmas\u0131n\u0131 istemi\u015fti. Vefat\u0131 \u00fczerine Karacaahmet mezarl\u0131\u011f\u0131 yan\u0131nda yeni a\u00e7\u0131lan, d\u00fczenli ve bak\u0131ml\u0131 bir kabristana defnettik.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Cenazesine kat\u0131lan y\u00fczlerce dostun dualar\u0131 g\u00f6n\u00fcllerimizi ferahlatt\u0131. Yak\u0131n dostum \u015eair yazar Nurullah Gen\u00e7, \u00f6\u011fle namaz\u0131 i\u00e7in gitti\u011fi Karacaahmet \u015eakirin camiinde annemin cenaze namaz\u0131n\u0131 beklerken, g\u00f6nl\u00fcne ilham olan bir \u015fiiri kaleme alm\u0131\u015f, \u015eair duas\u0131 \u015fiirle olur diye Annem\u2019in hat\u0131ras\u0131na iki k\u0131tal\u0131k \u015fiirini \u00e7er\u00e7eveleterek getirmi\u015fti. O g\u00fczel \u015fiirle yaz\u0131m\u0131 bitiriyorum.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Arzuhal<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bu ta\u015flar\u0131n g\u00f6zleri neden b\u00f6yle oyulmu\u015f \/G\u00f6zya\u015f\u0131 m\u0131 s\u0131z\u0131yor kalplerinden yoksa, ne<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ad\u0131n, belli ki ulvi bir r\u00fcyada koyulmu\u015f\/ Karacaahmet\u2019ten mi g\u00fcl\u00fcms\u00fcyorsun, anne<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sana g\u00f6re de\u011fildi bu karanl\u0131k, bu diyar \/ \u015eimdi g\u00f6klerden y\u00fcce, yery\u00fcz\u00fcnden a\u011f\u0131rs\u0131n<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Arzuhalimi g\u00f6t\u00fcr; zamana h\u00fckmeden Yar \/ Cennetten bir bah\u00e7e de \u00f6ks\u00fcz\u00fcne ay\u0131rs\u0131n<\/p>\n\n\n\n

                                                                                                   Nurullah Gen\u00e7<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

                                                                                   <\/strong>Hatice Semiz Annemize ithaf olunur<\/p>\n\n\n\n

*Bir Ba\u015fhekimin Hayata Dair Notlar\u0131,Tefekk\u00fcr D\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnce Merkezi, \u0130stanbul,2021<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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